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Feb 24 '12
“True gender equality is actually perceived as inequality. A group that is made up of 50% women is perceived as being mostly women. A situation that is perfectly equal between men and women is perceived as being biased in favor of women.

And if you don’t believe me, you’ve never been a married woman who kept her family name. I have had students hold that up as proof of my “sexism.”

My own brother told me that he could never marry a woman who kept her name because “everyone would know who ruled that relationship.” Perfect equality – my husband keeps his name and I keep mine – is held as a statement of superiority on my part.

”
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Lucy, When Worlds Collide: Fandom and Male Privilege. (via valjeans)

I don’t see giving up my birth surname (the name of a man whom I do not care for and who may as well have been a sperm-donor for all the “fathering” he didn’t do) as a bad or oppressive thing. In my case, I was leaving behind a name that held only negative connotations for me and taking the name of a man I love more than anything. But hey, that’s just me.

(via arineat)

Why isn’t he giving up his name for yours…..? Why is giving up a name so important to these men? I can argue that they have a less exotic last name so it probably doesn’t matter whether I take it on or our children as a 100,000 others must have it unrelated to us. Probably more INTERESTING to take my last name: “Attrux” or let me keep it because I refuse to give up that part of me which I claim as a huge part of my identity. At the end of the day don’t give me bullshit about tradition, don’t give me bullshit about “that should be the way it is”, it’s a dumb argument for something that doesn’t need to be that way. In a way this whole name business has been fucking ignored and it has such a huge connection to patriarchy. 

(Source: seaofbadstories)

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